Caring for a dying loved one isn’t easy. Even when you know the end of life is near, you might feel unprepared emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Understanding and knowing what to expect — and what you can do to increase your loved one’s comfort — can help both you and the one you love.
As your loved one approaches the end of life, he or she might talk about spirituality or the meaning of life, so encourage them to explore and address his or her feelings. If they do not have a saving knowledge of Jesus, share how Christ can come into their lives and give them eternal life. If the person has made a commitment to Jesus in previous years, is he or she secure in that Christian commitment or are there feelings of doubt? Are there unconfessed sins that need forgiveness? Are there broken relationships that need mending?
Communion might be helpful for friends and family to gather around the bedside and share the elements together with the loved one. This could be the occasion that could help your loved one say goodbye to friends and family. This also gives others an opportunity to say goodbye to the one who is dying. This would also be the time to have a prayer to commit the person to the Lord; giving thanks for sharing his or her life, asking for ease of pain and that God would draw the person to Himself and give her or him His love, His peace, and His presence.
Scripture passages can be read that tell of the faithfulness of God and His love and care. Other passages can point to the eternal assurance a person has through faith. Encourage your loved one to memorize some verses that give him or her added assurance of God’s love and grace eternal life.
Decide whether there will be a funeral or memorial service. Will there be a cremation or casket? What music is to be played and sung, and who are the musicians? What are the Scriptures to be read? There may be other details that would be helpful to the family and the officiating clergy in conducting a funeral service.
Your loved one might also find it comforting to leave a legacy — such as creating a recording about his or her life or writing letters to loved ones, especially to grandchildren.